WE ARE WHAT WE ARE (sexual orientation)
I am a bisexual male married to a bisexual woman. Over the years, we have had friends of all sexual orientations - straight, bi and gay - and every one of them were beautiful people who had no misconceptions about who they were, who aroused them, and who they loved. It was not a choice; it was who they were.
Bi-curious is a choice; a conscious decision to have a same-sex experience, and that’s fine. It’s a beautiful thing that a hetero person would be open enough and liberated enough to want to explore things with another person of the same gender. But I knew I was bi from the very beginning.
During puberty, I was fortunate to have had friends of both sexes that were bold enough to admit their feelings and to want to act upon them. I had masturbation buddies that showed an otherwise healthy interest in girls, but as much as they were crazy for pussy and feminine beauty, they seemed equally interested in just male-male shared and mutual masturbation.
Now, one could make the argument that during puberty, one is going through serious changes and that one’s sexual identity is still in a formative state. I have no argument with that. But if those same-sex attractions still exist down the road, it’s more than just being curious.
Believe me, it’s difficult to impossible to explain this to someone who has no frame of reference. If that person is strictly heterosexual, they might think I’m a bit freaky for having such a desire for cock. But I find it incredibly hypocritical that some of those same people (men) would express such arousal at F-F porn. They’re aroused by seeing two women enjoy one another, but they recoil at the thought of two men together.
Let me further qualify my own desires. Where men are concerned, my desires and focus are masturbation-oriented. I love the feel of another man’s cock in my hand, of his hand on my cock, of his cock in my mouth or mine in his. I’m not really into anal sex, although on occasion I do enjoy a little self-stimulation. I have to really be in the mood for it, but it does happen. At times, I did wonder about my sexual identity, but I was fortunate to have met another man whose feelings were very close to mine.
This man has a clear gay identity. He did enjoy sexual relations with women earlier in his life, but found that his main desire was for men and he followed that desire. But the interesting thing is that he is also very masturbation-oriented. The bulk of his sexual activities are masturbatory - solo, shared and mutual. He admits to enjoying the closeness of another man, of kissing and fondling, but says that while he enjoys occasional anal sex, it is not his priority.
Perhaps one of the best things to come out of the public’s general awareness of other sexual lifestyles is the knowledge that there are no set rules for any couple - straight, bi or gay.
Just as we display a variety of images here on Tumblr, those images are a direct representation of what kinds of thoughts turn us on. It would seem to be a no-brainer that our real life flesh-to-flesh sex would be just as varied as what we display here and masturbate to.
You would think.
It was both a relief and a celebration when I found out early in my marriage that my wife shared similar feelings about women. She liked kissing other women, sharing oral sex and masturbation with them and - to many people’s disbelief - to viewing female erotica and masturbating to it.
When we engage in shared masturbation, she stimulates her pussy to whatever image is on the screen. She’s honest enough to admit to enjoying images of Asian women, especially in school uniforms. On numerous occasions, she has enjoyed oral sex and mutual masturbation with other women.
Some of my most intense memories are while my cock was buried in my wife’s pussy and I was sucking the cock of a good friend.
So, at the end of the day, people are going to believe what they want to believe. I can’t do much about that. If someone expresses an interest in my sexual identity or activity, I’m usually glad to explain it to them, but it’s not like that happens real often.
I know who I am and I’m comfortable with it. If there’s any choice involved, it’s that I choose to be honest about my identity and I’m glad that I have the freedom (in my relationship) to do that.
I love pussy, I love cocks and I love masturbation. Simple as that.